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Why would you choose the left over’s of the left overs of the left overs; just to get a rash on your a** – Jaguar Wright
It’s especially difficult for women navigating the music industry when unsolicited propositions for sex are treated as the norm — as if gatekeeping their careers through coercion is simply “how it works.” What’s often veiled as interest in talent quickly reveals itself as entitlement cloaked in opportunity. But this isn’t just a women’s issue. I’ve experienced this firsthand — from both white and Black men, and women — who feign professional support only to vanish the moment you decline their advances.
They go from 100 to zero — abruptly, unapologetically.
That’s never been my lane, and it never will be. I used to think this issue was more prevalent among white men, but I retract that. This isn’t a race issue — it’s a power issue. When I heard Jaguar Wright share in an interview that she was gang raped seven times, my heart broke. The underbelly of this business is not just unethical — it’s predatory, and often silenced behind glitter and glam.
And what’s even more unsettling is the sheer number of men — some in long-term relationships, some with children — who openly say they’d sleep with another man to get a music deal. One colleague even declared this in front of his girlfriend. A musician I once worked with said the same. That’s not ambition — that’s desperation wrapped in delusion. This isn’t the music business, it’s often the dirty business.
For anyone considering a career in entertainment: please be clear-eyed. If you’re new, educate yourself. If you’re seasoned, pass the knowledge on. All that glitters is not gold — especially in showbiz. Charm does not equal character. Exposure doesn’t always mean elevation.
Let’s be real — I’m not saying you shouldn’t date someone in the business. Nor am I suggesting you should. That’s personal. But before the romance, get the contracts. Signed. Dated. Vetted by your legal team — and then theirs. Twice. Maybe three times. And above all, remember: no industry devil can override the love of God. If it’s not rooted in integrity or respect, let it go. Keep moving — and keep shining on your own terms.
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